I had the opportunity to attend the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration recently. Packing up my whole crew to do Disney is way outta my league, so I picked my three favourite children to bring along with me (Ok, they’re not really my favourites, but it worked with their schedules).
On top of the event being just out-of-this-world amazing, hanging with my three girls was pretty special. I’ll tell ya what – those Disney folks sure know a thing or two about hospitality. I got a lot of laughs and kicks over many things, but here are a few worth mentioning:
- My Independent Girls:
My three girls are 10, 12 and barely 14-years-old. While I attended the conference, the three of them went off with their maps and bus schedules and explored the Disney Parks completely on their own. They didn’t even have cell phones. They worked together, problem solved and made memories. I’d say that is the sign of a good holiday!
- Magic Bands:
My kids are fascinated by the magic that is the Disney Magic Bands. A wrist band that gets them into hotel rooms, on rides and buys them food? Unthinkable! So impressed by this technology, they had to dissect and autopsy my Magic Band upon our return home. Results not yet in.
- The Other Conference Attendees:
In addition to hanging out with so many amazing bloggers and their families, there was a special moment for my 10-year-old daughter while we were riding on the Magical Express to our hotel. She spotted the genius family of “Cute Girl Hairstyles” YouTube fame. I did a quick google search as my kid was freaking out, and yeah, they’re a pretty big deal. And not only do they do cool hairdos, the family is amazingly sweet and friendly.
- The Negative Nelly:
Every family has one, right? My “Negative Nelly” had a wonderful time, but I picked this as her all-time classic Disney Downer Quote:
“It’s so sad that all these people have to FAKE being happy because they work here”. I suggested that maybe they weren’t faking and she claimed it’s impossible to be happy all the time. She says she sniffed out a few fakes, and claims, “You have to look into their eyes and not at their smiles”. OK then.
- Crashed Out Kids:
Nothing makes this mama happier than knowing her kids played hard. Here is the photographic evidence. The flight home looked like this:
Has your family done the trip to Disney yet? I was delighted to have gone to be a part of something as exciting as the Disney Social Media Moms Celebration. I only hope to get invited again so I can bring my other favourite children!
When Michelle, Montreal’s fabulous ‘Bead Lady’ from
somethingfunky.ca, agreed to deliver the fun at Audra’s recent ECHOage birthday party, she became so inspired by the generosity of this energetic little 6 year old that she just had to get involved!
Joining in on the giving with Audra’s kindergarten girlfriends, Michelle, decided to donate her party fee bringing the total raised to $500!
Audra chose to contribute her ECHOage funds to her best friend Zoe Saskin’s fund at the Montreal Children’s Hospital Foundation and she is also going to get a desk just in time for grade one!
Kids are inspiring the adults in their lives to help change the world!
I’ve always been fascinated by what makes some people super motivated, and others, not so much. I found this particularly interesting when I saw differences in motivation between my children.
Why do I have two kids who are equally clever, yet one is disappointed with a certain mark or grade in school, while the other thinks it is more than acceptable?
A few weeks ago I spent an evening holding a gun to one kid’s head forcing him to prepare for a math test taking place the next day. No gun to head, no study. Across the room was the other child busily typing on her laptop. When I asked what she was working on, the response was “I have a science test in two weeks so I’m just putting together my study notes to get a jump on things.”
Two kids – born only fifteen months apart with the same parents, same home environment, same encouragement, same role modeling, and yet so different. Why?
With no answer to that question, frustration was mounting. When you have a smart kid not working to potential, it’s enough to make any parent get twitchy. I usually rely on natural consequences – don’t study, then you fail. Better luck next time. Problem is – with this kid, doing badly doesn’t bother him too much. Not exactly what I’m looking for in a consequence.
I happen to be lucky enough to be pals with psychologist and parenting author, Alyson Schafer. She gave me a few quick tips that I’ve put into practice – and my kid and I are not as frustrated with each other.
Tip #1: Teach him the EFFORT IS NOT STUPIDITY. This is big. Whenever he actually had to TRY at something, he liked to default to “Oh well, I guess I just suck at this”. That’s a pretty easy out, so we’ve had lots of conversations trying to turn this way of thinking around.
Tip #2: Don’t dictate when he’s going to study, but task him to. Every Sunday he creates his own study plan for the week. No longer is it me nagging him to study, it’s him having to be accountable to his OWN plan.
Tip #3: Don’t argue when he thinks what he’s studying is useless. He’s likely right. Have the open conversation that there are bits of the curriculum that are outdated or won’t be relevant to him. Get on his side, but remember to teach that getting through this is all just a step to be able to have choices when it comes to post-secondary education and a career.
Do your kids have different motivation levels? How do you manage your expectations around the effort they do or don’t put into school or activities?
By Julie Cole, Founder of Mabels Labels.
I’m no stranger to sending kids to sleep away camp. My “biggie” kids have been going for several years and the benefits are countless.
This year, I have a new crop of kids who are great ages for sleep away camp, so for the first time in a few years, I found myself revisiting the age old question of “ARE THEY READY?” Of course, I’m not sure I’m ready, but as a wise Camp Director once told me, “Sorry Julie, this isn’t about YOU!” Fine thing.
After setting my personal anxieties aside, I looked at my two little darlings and asked myself the following:
Do they want to go to camp? If they want to go, it’s a pretty good indication that they’re ready. Of course, kids can be indecisive – one minute they want to go and another minute they don’t. When they say they don’t want to go, it’s likely that they’re worried about homesickness. So, I remind my kids that it’s completely normal and they likely will be homesick at some point. But it usually passes and doesn’t interfere with the overall camp experience. Besides, camp staff are trained to deal with this issue. A homesick kid is the biggest and most common issue they deal with.
As the parent, our job is to consider how severe the homesickness will be. So when trying to determine whether they’re ready or not, you can ask yourself these questions:
- When at home, does your kid stay in their own bed every night? If you wake up every morning having discovered a little visitor migrated into your bed during the night, the kiddo might not quite be ready
- Does your child feel comfortable having a sleepover with extended family or close friends? If they’d rather be glued to you than have a fun sleepover at Grandma’s house, this could be a sign that the kiddo is not ready for camp
- Can you get a little friend to go too? My kids like going to camp with siblings, but kids are put in cabins according to age so siblings don’t usually get to stay together. A familiar friend from home or school can sometimes help a kiddo feel more comfortable.
- Have your kiddos had the chance to see camp for themselves? My two kids that are up for camp consideration this summer have been able to visit their siblings at camp, which has familiarized them with the camp setting. This can be helpful.
After putting kids #4 and #5 through this little test, these were the results:
YES, this kid is ready camp! She’s signed up and ready to go!
Sorry buddy, maybe next year!
How do you decide if your little ones are ready for this experience? Do you have anyone heading off to sleep-away camp this season? By Julie Cole, Founder of Mabels Labels.
ECHOage is booming in Montreal. Party with us and support our growing list of wonderful Charity Partners.Posted: April 2, 2015
It’s a great way to celebrate the season.
When an 8 year old boy actively supports his mom’s recovery from Lymphoma, we know it’s time to celebrate.
Emil marked his 8th birthday by raising close to $500.00 for St Mary’s Hospital Foundation, the place that was pivotal in helping his mom, Danina, recover from Lymphoma last year.
In his mom’s words: “Emil is a devoted and loving son and played a major role in helping me to overcome Lymphoma. His ECHOage celebration was another way for him to say thanks for the loving care and support I received at St. Mary’s Hospital.”
At ECHOage, we are endlessly moved by children like Emil. Over and over we see inspiring examples of kids doing much more than adults had ever expected. Emil’s actions make these words come true.
Congratulations Emil! You are an ECHOage Hero. We know you will inspire many children to follow in your footsteps. The world is a better place because of you.
Way to go Hannah! Supporting Canadian Diabetes Association sounds like a very meaningful choice for you to support.
Happy, happy birthday!