Forgiveness – A Work in Progress

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Hanging on a wall in our home is a list of basic principles that our family tries to live by. It’s a visual reminder of how we should treat each other. One of those principles is “Be quick to forgive”, and every now and again, the universe reminds me of just how important that is, too.

When I was in my first year of university, I upset one of my friends. I was mortified and apologized for my action. She forgave me, it seemed, and we moved on. But over the next couple of years, every once in a while she would remind me of that mistake. I got to the point where I just didn’t want to hear about it again and again. I sat her down and said that if she mentioned it one more time, I would have to end our friendship. She was shocked to learn how painful it was for me to be reminded of it, and completely understood. We remain extremely close today and it has never been mentioned since. In fact, so much time has passed I can’t even remember what I did in the first place.

This brings me to an incident that occurred this week. I made a mistake with one of my kids that left him in a potentially dangerous situation. I was horrified, upset and my confidence was completely shaken. I couldn’t sleep for days.

What was remarkable about the situation was that even though I made an outrageous mistake with one of the kids, Daddy-o supported me completely and kept telling me what an amazing mom I am. I found this remarkable because I know what I would have done if it had been him that made the same mistake. I would have been unforgiving. I probably would have told him that he can’t be trusted. I would have made him feel like a complete failure.  But he didn’t do any of that to me.

So it has been a week of big reminders and even bigger lessons for this mama. The most important lesson being that I’m going to pay closer attention to the family principle of being quick to forgive.

Are there double standards of forgiveness in your house?  Are you forgiving with your partner?

Written By Guest Blogger Julie Cole


For Clara’s 3rd birthday, she got a tree house and Project Linus got $227.00

No stopping this girl.  Already providing warmth and comfort at age three!

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Clara says she chose to support Project Linus, “Because children didn’t have blankies.” Clara adores the quilts made by her Great Great Grandmother and her Great Grandmother Imogene that she sleeps with every night. Her Grandma Imogene also makes quilts for the Linus Project. For her birthday, Clara wanted to help other children get their own “blankies.” Project Linus gives handmade blankets to ill and Screen Shot 2013-06-17 at 3.46.48 PMtraumatized children that are in need of a little extra comfort. When we offered the choice between giving blankets or helping children who needed more food, Clara said, “Why can’t I do both?”  Clara’s Mom says she loves that Clara is learning about helping others – inspiring her generosity at such a young age.

Clara is getting a tree house in her backyard that her parents are building for her from new and reclaimed materials. Hopefully, it will be a little retreat for her for many years to come.

Happy birthday sweet Clara.  Your ECHO will certainly be heard far and wide.  Wishing you many
wonderful hours of dreaming up new ways to improve the world in your new tree house.


ECHOage Loves Summer Camp

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ECHOage loves to support camp! The more camps we support, the happier we are each summer. Kids from across Canada and the U.S. who also love camp have chosen to help send even more kids to camp this summer simply by ECHOaging their birthday parties. As a result of these amazing ECHOage birthdays, children living with cancer, children with developmental disabilities, and children who are visually or hearing impaired will have a chance to experience the sunshine, canoeing, skiing, campfires, songs, spirit and friendship that makes camp so memorable.

One of the camps that ECHOage supports is Camp Awakening.  This amazing camp is full of kids with cerebral palsy, spina bifida, and muscular dystrophy. Camp Awakening makes camp a place of freedom.  After all, camp really is a place for kids to unplug from the constant buzz of cell phones, computers and video games and have the chance to make genuine face-to-face connections, discover the wonders of nature, and challenge perceived limitations.

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Another camp that ECHOage supports is Lake Scugog Camp.  Some kids can’t go to camp because of their financial circumstances and the majority of Lake Scugog’s campers come from shelters, foster care, or families with limited financial means. Lake Scugog is a place where campers are able to feel no judgement, feel safe and have fun while experiencing the true joy that comes from swimming in a cool lake or eating a roasted marshmallow for the first time.

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View all of the camps ECHOage supports here: ECHOage Camps


A Little Drama Goes A Long Way at Norah’s 9th Birthday Party.

Norah got $255 for an iTunes gift card and WWF Got $255.

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For Norah’s 9th birthday she and all her friends had a great drama party at The Stage Door Academy. They played really cool drama games, freeze dance, ate pizza and celebrated with birthday cake!

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For her ECHOage birthday, she chose to support  WWF.  When asked Norah how she felt about her contribution, “I LOVE animals and I wanted to help Polar Bears because they are getting endangered and I want to protect their Arctic Home.”

Norah, we are so proud of you and the ECHO you have already started at such a young age. We can’t wait to see what you do for your second act!

Happy, happy birthday, Norah from everyone at ECHOage.com


It’s Earth Day! Four Tips On How Your Birthday Party Can Give Back To The Planet.

It’s not really about throwing a green birthday party but rather throwing a party that is in keeping with the times.

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A few mindful choices will let you and your guests feel proud about making the world a better place, one fabulous birthday bash at a time.  Where to begin?

1) Say adios to stamps! And hola to e-invitations.

Sending e-invitations eliminates paper, ensures speed of delivery and  allows your guests to RSVP, right away.  Sending Thank You notes becomes a joy, not a chore, when you personalize them with photos from the party with a press of the ‘send’ button.   No emissions, no paper cuts and no searching for mailing addresses required.

2) There’s no place like home.

Dorothy said it best when she tapped her heels three times…

Bringing your birthday party into your home allows you to reduce the need to use paper goods and disposable decorations.  Setting your table with your own dishes, cutlery and glasses not only makes the party feel special, it helps to keep the recycle bin from over-flowing.  Collect flowers or rocks from the garden to make place card settings extra special.

3) Work smarter not harder.

Giving group gifts is efficient, resourceful and best of all, is likely to result in a gift that will last and be treasured for years to come.  Let’s be real. If you asked your wee one who gave the LEGO set for their 5th birthday, chances are you would still be waiting for that answer. If you asked who gave them their first baseball glove (iPod, scooter or camera) you will likely get a very clear and resounding – all of my friends!

Group gifts are also a sure fire way to get the friend-of-the-year award (while saving on gas and aggravation). Imagine telling your guests that they can give online, in seconds, and still give little Johnny the gift he has been dreaming about – while never leaving home.

4) The only thing better then giving one gift, is giving TWO.

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Amp up the meaning of any birthday party by  including a charitable component (no gift wrap required).  Not only will you be teaching your kids that giving can be done at any age, you will be giving your child the gift that can ONLY come from helping others in need. Make it easy, make it fun and most of all, magnify the lasting impact the choice to give back will have on others.

Green, for sure.  Smart, you bet. Birthday parties of today, certainly can keep up with the time.

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A gift of music and love of animals made Elana’s 11th birthday, music to our ears!

For Elana’s 11th birthday, she got a FLUTE and WWF got $317.00.

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Ever since Elana was a toddler she’s had a strong interest in whales and marine life.  In fact, this summer she had the opportunity to see many varieties on a whale watching trip on the St. Lawrence River in Quebec. WWF was just a natural charity choice for her, as well it fit with her party theme of exotic animals.

Elana has been playing the flute since she was 8 years old. She loves the flute for it’s beautiful sound.  Elana wants to pursue learning to play and perform into high school and getting a brand new flute for her ECHOage birthday was just the thing she needed to take her to the next level.

WWF’s mission is to stop the degradation of the planet’s natural environment and to build a future in which humans live in harmony with nature, by: Screen Shot 2013-04-10 at 4.17.08 PM

  • -conserving the world’s biological diversity
  • -ensuring that the use of renewable natural resources is sustainable
  • -promoting the reduction of pollution and wasteful consumption

Elana, you already are instrumental in making the world around you, a better place.  A giant happy birthday from ECHOage, to you!


It’s True! ECHOage Has Been Selected As A Family Choice Award Winner.

We wanted to share the good news and thank the families from all over the USA and Canada who chose to ECHOage their kids’ birthday parties long before most people knew that there actually was a better way to celebrate. 

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The Family Choice Awards Recognizes the best in travel, children, parenting and pet products and resources. This award program is one of the most coveted, family friendly consumer awards programs in the nation.

It may not be an Oscar – but for these two moms who brought the idea of birthday giving and getting to life – we humbly thank our own academy of families, friends and children who encouraged us to jump in, take a chance and not turn back.

A giant thank you from us, to all of you!


Can a spa birthday party really raise $267 for Free the Children and get a 10 year old girl a brand new iPad Mini?

For Elizabeth’s 10th birthday party, she chose to support Free the Children as she was inspired by their Me to We summer academy and wanted to do more to help.

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At the Me to We summer academy, Elizabeth learned about children in other countries, child labor, child poverty and lack of clean water in many developing countries.

Ready to be inspired?

At the end of the camp, Elizabeth developed an action plan on anti-bullying – called, nice notes.  She got the idea from the camp.  Basically, Screen Shot 2013-01-30 at 4.31.35 PMeveryone in the class has to write a nice note to all her classmates. This way, even the bully receives nice notes and gets to write nice notes herself.  Hopefully, the bully will feel better about herself and stop bullying others.  Elizabeth was invited to speak in the school assembly at the start of the school year.  She then launched the program to her grade (grade 4) during anti-bullying week.

Elizabeth, our nice note to you:  You are an enormous inspiration – a leader, a role model and an ambassador for change.

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We hope that you enjoy your iPad Mini to the fullest.  Who knows, maybe

you will use it to film your own mini documentary about anti-bullying.

Happy, happy 10th birthday!


Luca Levitates, Raises Hope and $235 for POGO for His 6th Birthday Party.

Not only did Luca raise money for POGO (Pediatric Oncology Group of Canada) he had a magician at his party who made him levitate!

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In Luca’s words, “I chose to support POGO because I wanted kids who were sick with cancer to be able to get better.” Screen Shot 2013-01-23 at 9.00.23 AM

Donations to POGO gives families money for food when their child is being treated in the hospital, pays for hotels and other accommodation when they need to travel far for treatment, and pays for babysitting for brothers and sisters that are left at home when the rest of the family is at the hospital.

No rabbit being pulled from a hat at this birthday party.  Instead, a Nintendo DS given to Luca from all his friends was the final magical act.

Happy Birthday Luca!


For Chiji’s 4th birthday, she got a big girl bike and Child Find of America got $225.

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Chiji had a face painting party with her friends to celebrate her 4th birthday.

After viewing the list of charities on the ECHOage website, Chiji chose to support Child Find of America.  In her words, “Oh yes, we should give them money so the Mommy’s and Daddy’s can bring their kids home. Every kid should be with their Mommy and Daddy.”

Outta the mouths of babes.

Chiji also expressed excitement for her gift choice.  “ I would like a big girl bike so my little sister can ride my bike.”  At four years of age, you are already a giving and generous soul, Chiji.

We are so proud to know that young girls like you are doing such positive and wonderful things in our world.

Chiji, we hope you have many exciting adventures exploring the world on your big girl bike.

Happy, happy, 4th birthday.